It is natural to fear the unknown. What happens when you don’t know what happens next? Is it not better to hold on to what you can see? We are unsure of the after life, and that is one major reason why we are scared to death of death. Many feel like they have a lot more to do on earth. Still we have to come to terms with reality on this truth: ‘you will die someday!’ Let that sink in. Many people don’t want to think about it, but are unknowingly distancing themselves from what they can’t escape from. Start preparing for your death if you haven’t started yet. Here are 5 things people will want to know about you when you die.
1) How Did You Die?
This is always the first question on everyone’s lips. They want to know whether it is something that could give them a sort of consolation, or more pain, knowing it was something that could have been easily averted. Trust me there are deaths that sound better to the ear, there are deaths that have prepared you for it’s coming. A long term sickness, or a terminal disease is common in this area. The person can get as much love he or she needs from the family, and even reuniting with God on the sick bed before the final day. Meanwhile, many other ways of dying are the most painful. I don’t want to make this article about that, but I believe some of the most painful deaths are accidents, and that could go all the way from a minor accident to the really huge ones. When you finally die, people would ask how you died. This is one point I know most people don’t determine for themselves. If you choose how you die, it would most likely be suicide. The real truth is at the end, how you die doesn’t matter that much, death would come one day and eternity would begin after. Regardless of the means, the deed has been done.
2) What About Your Family?
Yeah, people want to know about this too. Were you the only child? Were you the one fending for the rest of your siblings? Did you leave a spouse behind? How many grandchildren did you have? Do you have others that would continue the family legacy? Or were you the only child and left your parents? Life is cruel. But at the end of the day your family matters. Imagine a funeral with no members of your family? That would not be right. So, as you are alive right now, you need to show your family as much love as you can. As the saying goes: ‘charity begins at home.’ You will not be able to choose or know what members of your family you would leave behind, whether nuclear or extended. But let it be known that you did a great job in helping your family members up. Let your mandate and name ring out for generations to come. If your family would matter to others after your death, let it matter to you while you are alive today. Reunite with your family if you are not at peace with them. No one can reconcile with the dead. But one can mourn the many chances one had to reconcile before the time of death.
3) Did You Know Jesus?
Many of us do not evangelize at all, yet we expect every single person we know to get into heaven. I have caught myself going down some late peoples social media accounts to just check, if they knew Jesus. Was there even a hint of Him in this persons life? It’s not by fine, godly looking updates here and there, it’s your daily walk that matters. Your walk with God is what would count at the end. People ask questions like was he or she a believer, did she know Christ? Because the only way you ever meet any one you knew on earth again is if you end up in the same place in eternity. Everyone believes they would make it to heaven and they would love to see their loved ones again. So people would care about the final destination that you’ll go to when you die.
I have still not wrapped my head around the meaning of the term ‘Rest In Peace’. When a wish has nothing to do with the eternal location of the dead person. The only possible peace is in heaven, and only few will tread that path. You will not see everyone you knew on earth in heaven, that’s the truth. But if people really care about where you end up, it’s wise if you start caring about it now too. God also cares about where you’ll end up, that’s why he sent Jesus here on earth to live a blameless life, then carry your sins on the cross with him and die with them. He has defeated death, and is risen today. You are actually free because Jesus has taken your sins away. But if you don’t accept that truth and confess Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, accept him into your life and love him by obeying his commandments, there is no place in heaven for you. Jesus is the only way! You will continue to live a life of sin that is neither pleasing to you or pleasing to God. Now is the time to get it right. Now! Not when you have taken your last breath.
4) Were You A Good or Bad Person?
Hehehe.. We never get to hear the bad truths about a dead person at their funeral service or in the tributes written down. People actually enjoy hearing the good things you did alive, accomplishments, goals set, and kind words said. It brings joy when people know that in the midst of their tears, you were a good person. It also hurts way more because the question that pops up in the minds of people is “why should such a good person like you die when there are many other wicked people still living? Why would those who help others end up dying anyway?” If you are a good person, people would be going through these thoughts and asking series of questions.
Behind the scenes though, some people will say the truth. They’ll mention the bad things that you did, those very truthful ones would mention your mistakes even after your death. We have made mistakes, we will make mistakes. It’s unavoidable, but ensure you do your best to keep doing good. From what I have learnt, the more selfless you live, the more consistent you get and the farther away from selfishness you’ll be. The easiest way to learn to do good, is to learn to love. Once you learn to love, it is the easiest to do good. Though living good doesn’t guarantee a place in heaven, accepting Jesus does. A good life supersedes a bad life any time.
5) What did you do for the world when you were alive?
You had nothing to do with your birth, you didn’t say to God “I’m ready” and God then sent you to your parents. All you remember was your growing up with life in you, having people around you, learning different things by observation and instruction. At your death, people would want to know how you contributed to making things better, both for yourself and for people around you. Were you the loner, the proud person, the selfish one? Those things affect the level of impact you make in other lives. Will people be thankful that you lived? Would there be any access to your belief and thoughts? Would people still be gaining from you even after your death? Or would you just have millions of pictures everywhere? What can we gain from your pictures apart from the same smiles we see in every other picture that you took and probably a different clothes you wore? Did you live a life of impact? Or you missed it? People will want to know.
Have you noticed that many peoples books, and songs sell more in their deaths than when they were alive? It’s because people are much more interested in what they had to offer when they were alive, now that they are dead. Your death would be a selling point, it would earn your name money you will never spend. But then of course, your thoughts and beliefs would transform lives, if they are positive enough. I really can’t count the number of books of people that are not alive that I have read. But guess what? They are still very relevant till today. If in any way you intend that your death ministers life unto many, you can only start something now while you are alive. No one is sure of the exact time or moment death would happen.
Normally, people don’t ask the right questions about you, but surprisingly at your death they will do. They’ll ask the major questions that depict what your entire life was all about, and guess what? They’ll find out. The only way the questions people would ask, would do you much good is when you ask yourself these questions in present tense. Death has taken many away unprepared, don’t let it do the same to you. You just may not have as much time as you think you do, and who knows, you may.
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The subject of death is one that rarely talked about, and this has cast a sort of shadow of fear around it. Death should not be feared. Therefore we’ll shed a lot of light on it with a couple of articles on it here on this blog. Live ready!
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